My name is Tara (pronounced Tah-Rah...not Terra).
This is me...
Welcome to my blog!
I began this blog in October of 2006 while I was on bed rest with my daughter Olivia. Actually my husband started this blog for me. He even named it for me since I really had no idea what a "blog" was. Who knew all these years later blogging would have become such a huge, and wonderful, part of my life?
The Short Story:
I am a married, Canadian, work at home mom with 3 kids. I work as a virtual assistant and social media manager. My husband is the director of the local food bank in our town. My oldest son has high-functioning Autism and Oppositional Defiant Disorder. My middle son has an anxiety disorder and possible childhood depression. My daughter is - so far- neurotypical. We live in a very small town in Northwestern, Ontario.
The Long Story:
This is my husband Doug with our daughter Olivia...
and these are our sons- Owen (in the blue) and Aiden...
Doug and I got married when we were practically children (not really... I was 23, he was 25) back on July 31, 1999. He had just graduated from Bible college and I was still in college finishing off my degree. Less than one year later we moved to Hamilton, Ontario where Doug began his first church-job as a youth pastor. One year after that we were surprised (very surprised) to find out that I was pregnant. 8 months after Aiden was born we were even MORE surprised to find out that I was pregnant again with Owen. I also managed to have 2 miscarriages - one before I got pregnant with Aiden and one before I got pregnant with Owen. I didn't realize that either was a miscarriage however until my third miscarriage after I had Owen. I just thought I was having REALLY painful and weird periods. The moral of the story? The birth control pill doesn't work for me. At all. Not even a little bit.
Aiden was extremely colicky and screamed 12-13 hours per day, every day until he was over 12 months old. Owen was born 17 months after Aiden and those first years are a blur of massive post partum depression and sleep deprivation. Now I know that Aiden had Autism but at the time I had no idea so I pretty much just thought I sucked as a mother.
It was delightful. (insert sarcasm here)
I have always maintained that God did our family planning because CLEARLY we planned nothing but I am very very thankful for my children.
But I am also not very smart because after I had Owen I had 2 more miscarriages and then I got pregnant with Olivia before finally deciding all forms of birth control are complete crap and getting my tubes tied. (and yes, I really was on birth control every. single. time. I got pregnant... true story)
I have since talked with a specialist and discovered that people with thyroid disorders (such as myself) often have difficulties with various forms of birth control being effective. Information I could have used about 10 years ago.
When Aiden was 2 and Owen was 8 months old we left Hamilton and moved to Saskatchewan. Doug become the pastor of a church in a teeny tiny town in the middle of nowhere. We were there for 5 years.
That is where Olivia was born and where I began this blog. That is also where we began the journey of getting Aiden diagnosed. I spent much of those years struggling with post partum depression but they were not all bad. I had very dear friends in that small town and I loved it there for that reason.
In March 2009 we moved to our current town in Northwest, Ontario for Doug to become the pastor of a small church here. After two years the church was unable to continue paying us because they were just too small so he was laid off. He spent a year being unemployed (which SUCKED) and then became the director of the food bank.
Here in Ontario is where Aiden was officially diagnosed with Autism. We have accessed a lot of really great resources here, despite the fact that we are in a fairly remote area. We actually really love living in a small town- other than living so far from the airport! 4.5 hours to the nearest airport SUCKS.
I became a virtual assistant / social media manager almost by accident. I was online friends with someone and she hired me to be her assistant! I had never heard of the job before that. Since then I have just continued to get more and more clients through referrals. I love that I can work from home because a traditional job would simply not work with our family.
And that brings me to life right now - aren't we adorable?
Picture taken October 2012