Monday, February 01, 2010

Aiden

Pin It Things with Aiden are not going well.

He has been bullying other kids at school. I spent an hour on the phone with the vice-principal tonight. He is on the road to expulsion.

She was very nice about it and said they would take into account his Autism/ADHD but even if you have special needs it doesn't mean you can hit other kids. Which we obviously agree with. I told her that things are a lot better now than they were a year ago- but they are still not good. She was asking me for suggestions as to how to help him.

I don't know what to tell her.

I am so so so sad.

This is not a surprise. We knew there were problems- there have always been problems with Aiden's anger.

Aiden is meeting with his mental health worker again soon and she has some ideas to help him with impulse control.

I've always thought it is a bit ironic that everytime we go to the special needs centre I see all sorts of pamphlets and posters saying things like "What to do if your child is being bullied" but none that say "what to do if your 7 year old child IS the bully". 

And yes, he always has consequences for his actions and yes, he knows it is wrong. But in that moment when someone ticks him off he just loses it.

I don't want any advice right now ok? I just would like prayers.

thanks.

26 comments:

Tanya said...

You're right...there are no pamphlets on the other side of bullying...but I feel for you, I WILL pray for you and I hope to hear how things are going soon. Thinking of you :)

christine said...

praying for you and Aiden

Su-Ann said...

praying for you, Tara!!

Linda Kish said...

I am glad you don't want advice because I have none. My son was like that until he turned 18 and intimidated a teacher. He was arrested for assault and had to take anger management classes (for adults). The children's classes did no good but this rime it struck a cord with him and he straightened out immediately. It's like he became a different person. All I am saying is don't give up. there is hope.

Linda said...

Definitely praying.

Linda said...

Sister has a son who was an absolute bully at home, but could contain it better at school, however, it was starting to come out. Found out he was ADHD,depressed and anxious. He's on prozac and going great. He even makes sure he takes it along when he has a sleepover. And this kid pounded holes in the wall, tore bedding, etc. He is not autistic, however.
Her youngest son has that and ADD. Will be praying. It's tough till you can hopefully come up with something that works.

Anonymous said...

Hey Tara,
praying for you guys..


Erika

Redlizzy1 said...

Hi Tara,

I am so sorry you are so sad. Of course you and your family will be in my prayers. You are not alone.

Tami said...

Praying for you Tara!

Emily B said...

hugs! Here's hoping things get easier - on you all.

Connie Walsh said...

Praying, I would like to remind you that Israel (God's sons and daughters) gave Him some grief in the Old Testament. And He's perfect and all.

I'm lifting you up to God so he can calm your fears and give you peace. I pray for Aiden, for him not to be afraid or upset. I pray for him not to think he is less in any way. Aiden is God's child as sure as any of us are. God delights in Aiden. I pray for healing from whatever needs healing. I pray for those he's hurt that they not feel fear or upset. That they are brought closer to God through their experience. In Jesus' name, all the children said "Amen".

Little Missus Sunshine said...

Oh man. Definitely praying!

Ruth said...

Praying for your family...

Becky Mayerle said...

Sending you a the biggest hug you ever got from me and I will be praying. I wish I could come sit with you and just be there...we both no there are really no answers. Love to both you and Doug from all of us.
Becky

imbeingheldhostage said...

Tara I am so sorry. I feel so bad for Aiden too because it takes 6 months to a year for a child to adjust to the change of a move-- his bad choices could be his way of dealing with the "dislocation disorder" and now he'll suffer serious consequences. It seems so unfair. Do they have a counselor at the school, someone to act as a liason for Aiden?

Amanda Daybyday said...

So sorry. Breaks a mama's heart. We see their sweet, vulnerable side. Their little loving hearts. But they don't show the rest of the world. Will has a lot of those same impulse problems. It gets old fast. Also, it's very embarrassing.
Also, it would be nice if the school had some answers instead of just asking for them.

Shash said...

You are on my heart my dear! We're praying for you guys, for your little man and for an Aaron to come along side you and hold up your arms. Even Moses couldn't do it alone.

Shoz said...

Loving you and praying for you!

Tannie's Chatter said...

Praying for you and I wish you the best.

Tanya said...

Praying for you all, sweetie.

Anonymous said...

sending you good energy!
Angie
one4earth

Danielle a.k.a Yellie said...

Sending prayers and ((HUGS)).

Margaret said...

okay - prayers ongoing.

lfhpueblo said...

I said a prayer for Aiden and your whole family and I come in agreement with others that Aiden finds a way to control his impulses that others see as improper.

Jenn @ Beautiful Calling said...

Parenting is a humbling experience at times isn't it? Most of us know and have experienced it in one way or another.

Hang in there. You're strong and you have a BIG God!

mommietj said...

I'm praying for Aiden!

 
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